“Perfect” Vision
The 5Ws of Breaking Stereotypes
Who: For disabled couples, their families, and a society obsessed with “horrifying perfection.”
What: Dismantling the idea that disability in a relationship is a “curse” or a “burden.”
Where: Inside the homes where decisions are made and the hearts where fear lives.
When: Right now—it’s time to stop making choices for others and let them live their own lives.
Why: Because independence is earned through experience, not granted by permission.
In our society, there is an obsession with a “horrifying perfection.” From the shade of our skin to the way we walk, people judge value based on appearance. When it comes to disability, the skeptics assume we are incapable. They see a cane or a visual impairment and immediately see a burden. But I am here to tell you: do not judge the soul by the shell.
I am visually impaired, and I have heard it all. People asked, “How will she manage?” or “Won’t she be a 100% dependency for her husband?” They think a life with disability is a curse. They are wrong.
The 10-Year Wait: Breaking the Walls of Family Fear
Before I got married, it took a decade for my in-laws to decide if two people with visual impairments could survive together. They were terrified. They imagined a life of struggle, where others would have to feed us or clothe us. This fear is a wall that many disabled couples face today.
Ten fingers, ten eyes: My reality of independence
People thought I would be a burden, but as soon as I stepped into my new home, the narrative changed. I don’t just manage myself; I manage my household. Allah may have taken two eyes, but He gave me ten eyes in the form of my fingers. I manage my husband’s clothes, his shoes, and even his skincare. I am the one who decides the color palette for my daughter’s clothing. My vision for my family is broader than most.
A Message to the Parents: Let Them Flow
To the parents who are currently blocking a connection because of disability: I understand you want to protect your children. But your “protection” can become a prison.
The dignity of making our own decisions
If two people have decided to be together, let them. If you separate them, they will blame you forever. Let the results of their lives sit on their own shoulders, not yours. Give them the freedom to succeed—or even to fail—on their own terms. That is where true independence is born.
To the world that looks at us with pity: Stop. Every human creation is a mix of minor and major disabilities. It is not for you to decide our worth. To my fellow disabled community: You are not a curse. You are a masterpiece of adaptation.
True connection isn’t about two “perfect” people; it’s about two people who are perfectly willing to try.